“People sometimes say that we will know feminism has done its job when half the CEOs are women. That’s not feminism; to quote Catharine MacKinnon, it’s liberalism applied to women. Feminism will have won not when a few women get an equal piece of the oppression pie, served up in our sister’s sweat, but when all dominating hierarchies - including economic ones - are dismantled.”—Lierre Keith (via iamelliebusch)
“Before women can create a world that recognizes and encourages the freedom of all, we have to deal with the problems created by masculinist obsessions with biology, geography, and social-political-economic divisions, all of which are connected with treating women and children as possessions. We must live as mothers and sisters now, and converting one man at a time to our task is like trying to turn the rock of Gibraltar into pebbles using one chisel. If Immanuel Kant had seen the real problem grounding the scaffolds faced by the lovers of Anne Boleyn, he might not have been so quick to admire Thomas More’s headstrong, soon to be headless, pursuit of the truth. But dismantling scaffolds is going to occupy us, our daughters, and our granddaughters for some time to come.”—Eleanore Holveck, Simone de Beauvoir’s Philosophy of Lived Experience: Literature and Metaphysics (via goneril-and-regan)
Self-absorption is general, as is self-doubt. In the large coastal cities of the United States this summer many people wanted to be dressed in “real linen,” cut by Calvin Klein to wrinkle, which implies real money. In the large coastal cities of the United States this summer many people wanted to…
“What does a feminist therapist do that’s different? A feminist therapist tries to believe what women say. Given the history of psychiatry and psychoanalysis, this alone is a radical act. When a woman begins to remember being sexually molested as a child, a feminist does not conclude that the woman’s flashbacks or hysteria prove that she’s lying or crazy.
A feminist therapist believes that a woman needs to be told that she’s not crazy; that it’s normal to feel sad or angry about being overworked, underpaid, underloved; that it’s healthy to harbor fantasies of running away when the needs of others (aging parents, needy husbands, demanding children) threaten to overwhelm her.
A feminist therapist believes that women need to hear that men “don’t love enough” before they’re told that women “love too much”, that fathers are equally responsible for their children’s problems; that no one - not even self-appointed feminist saviors - can rescue a woman but herself; that self-love is the basis for love of others; that it’s hard to break free of patriarchy; that the struggle to do so is both miraculous and life-long; that very few of us know how to support women in flight from - or at war with - internalized self-hatred.
A feminist therapist tries to listen to women respectfully, rather than in a superior or contemptuous way. A feminist therapist does not minimize the extent to which a woman has been wounded. Nevertheless, a feminist therapist remains resolutely optimistic. No woman, no matter how wounded she may be, is beyond the reach of human community and compassion.
A feminist therapist does not label a woman as mentally ill because she expresses strong emotions or is at odds with her feminine role. Feminists do not view women as mentally ill when they engage in sexual, reproductive, economic, or intellectual activities outside of marriage. They do not pathologize women who have full-time careers, are lesbians, refuse to marry, commit adultery, want divorces, choose to be celibate, have abortions, use birth control, choose to have a child out of wedlock, choose to breast-feed against expert advice, or expect men to be responsible for 50 percent of the child care and housework. Women have lost custody of their children for these very reasons - pronounced unfit by courtroom psychiatrists, psychologists, or social workers.”— Phyllis Chesler, “Woman and Madness - Revised and updated for the first time in thirty years”, 2005, pp. 30-1. (via lolliguncula)
“I have reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro’s great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is the white moderate, who is more devoted to ‘order’ than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says ‘I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action’; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man’s freedom.”—Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., "Letter from a Birmingham Jail" (via zuky)
“Don’t listen to 18 year old boys who
read Nietzsche and tell you life is pointless.
I don’t know about god, and I know we are
profligates all; thieves, checkout workers
crooked lawyers— with our wood chip wallpaper,
our TV dinners, our heartburn— but by god, if we didn’t see
horses, bows and hunters in the randomness
of the stars. Know that contempt is a kind
of cowardice. How easy it is to look upon
fellow man as a futile bunch of mortal cells
a fretwork of dark blood, bound for
some modern cancer. I’m bored by your boredom.
Despite it all; (the burning cars on the news,
the evening war, the prison complexes) I still maintain
what is more difficult and far nobler is to love defiantly
even though we live a hairsbreadth from oblivion
from cheap funeral parlour cremation. To pledge
yourself to the world’s newborn o of surprise—
a prolonged o of angel fish, ocean and aurora
the blue song of all that we loved but could not name.”—