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[W]ith partner abuse, the periods when the man is being good—or at least not at his worst—are not really outside of his pattern. They are generally an integral aspect of his abusiveness, woven into the fabric of his thinking and behavior.

What functions do the good periods play? They perform several, including the following:

  • His spurts of kindness and generosity help him to feel good about himself. He can persuade himself that you are the one who is messed up, “because look at me, I’m a great guy.”
  • You gradually feel warmer and more trusting toward him. The good periods are critical to hooking you back into the relationship, especially if he doesn’t have another way to keep you from leaving, such as financial control or the threat of taking the children.
  • While you are feeling more trusting, you expose more of your true feelings about different issues in your life and you show him more caring, which creates vulnerability that he can use later to control you. […]
  • He uses the good periods to shape his public image, making it harder for you to get people to believe that he’s abusive.
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Friday 4/4/2014

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Lundy Bancroft in Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (2002), pp. 150–51

"Good" periods also function to decrease a woman’s resolve to leave the abusive situation.

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canadianbeerandpostmodernism:

Young artist falls asleep with papier maché mask of Marlene Dietrich on her lap, 1950.  

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canadianbeerandpostmodernism:

Young artist falls asleep with papier maché mask of Marlene Dietrich on her lap, 1950.  

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nextyearsgirl:

I don’t think feminism stands to gain anything by pretending that it’s easy to be a feminist. When I see or hear things like “80% of the world is feminist, a feminist is anyone who believes women should be equal,” I’m not comforted. I don’t see what the movement has to gain by pretending that misogyny is not the default in most people, and that being a feminist is as easy as buying into a buzzword. Feminism is hard. It requires examining our own beliefs and behaviors, a constant struggle to root out misogynist and patriarchal beliefs and behaviors, analysis of how our actions and the actions of others are harmful to women, and a conscious effort to change. Not just one time, but every day. To pretend that anyone who “believes in equality” is automatically a feminist is to leave the status quo untouched, to dress up oppressive behavior as liberating if we affix a “likes women” badge to it. To pretend that the fix is easy is to ignore that the disease permeates every aspect of our society, and to avoid naming the problem and telling people that work is actually involved is to fail women in the name of making others comfortable.

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Thursday 4/3/2014

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Wednesday 4/2/2014

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bummerfriends:

April 2014: Horrorscopes for thefreshzine

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Sunday 3/30/2014

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Pharrell on his time working at McDonald’s

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hipsterloli:

i will reblog this as many times as i can in hopes of making it a post everyone on tumblr sees at least once 

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Thursday 3/13/2014

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in-the-percolator:

Věra Chytilová RIP

(2 February 1929 – 12 March 2014)

:(((((((

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Vive L’amour (Tsai Ming-liang, 1994)

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natgeofound:

Two young girls enjoy the sun relaxing in their suits and wraps in England, September 1929.Photograph by Bernard Wakeman, National Geographic
Wednesday 3/12/2014

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natgeofound:

Two young girls enjoy the sun relaxing in their suits and wraps in England, September 1929.Photograph by Bernard Wakeman, National Geographic

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"People sometimes say that we will know feminism has done its job when half the CEOs are women. That’s not feminism; to quote Catharine MacKinnon, it’s liberalism applied to women. Feminism will have won not when a few women get an equal piece of the oppression pie, served up in our sister’s sweat, but when all dominating hierarchies - including economic ones - are dismantled."
Tuesday 3/4/2014

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